I’ve been quiet on social media for a while because I’ve been sorting through my own thoughts. I haven’t written a blog post in a while because writing about prenatal/postnatal fitness and core and pelvic floor health doesn’t come as easily as it used to for me…except when I feel the need to rant about stupid sh*t I see being “taught” to women online because well…I also feel the need to be the voice of reason for women in this crazy and wild, wild west online space. I haven’t written to my newsletter subscribers in a while either because quite frankly I feel like I haven’t really had anything too insightful to share with my tribe.
It’s time to talk about many of the thoughts and sentiments us moms experience in our hearts, minds, and souls (but are too afraid to speak up about or are too quick to dismiss) during those quiet times while our children are down for their naps, off at school, or before we fall asleep at night:
“I have so much in my life to be thankful for, so why then do I still feel unfulfilled in my life?”
“I’ve been taking care of everyone else for so long that I forgot what taking care of myself looks like.”
“I love my own parents, but I don’t love some of the lessons I learned from them growing up because these lessons aren’t helping me in my own life and how I raise my own family…but how do I let go?”
“Why am I so hard on myself? I want to have more confidence, love myself more, have more fun, feel more empowered in my life. I not only want to live my life for my family, but for me as well.”
“I love being a mom, but I still want to have my own life as well.”
“I want to be more in tune and aligned with what my soul wants in this life.”
I know you’ve had these thoughts from time to time, but you may be too afraid to explore them for fear of guilt or because of the uncertainty that lies on the other side of those thoughts. Just know that you are NOT a bad mother, wife, partner, or daughter for doing so. You can be all of those and more in this lifetime!
Until very recently, I’ve suppressed all of these thoughts and feelings within my own self because I didn’t know what to do with them. A little bit of a back story for you…from 2010-2013, I was unexpectedly forced to raise my two little boys on my own while my husband and I were dealing with some very significant life altering circumstances. Maybe someday, I will have the courage to speak openly about them, but for now, I hold them close to my heart.
It was during this time that I came to the realization that I had completely lost sight of myself. I was going through the motions in my everyday life, feeling completely zapped of creativity, happiness, self-love, self-confidence and feeling completely disconnected to who I wanted to be in this world.
Because of the need to live life through guilt-ridden and “not good enough” colored glasses passed down to me by my own parents’ stories, combined with the fact that my husband and I had completely hit rock bottom with our life circumstances, I punished myself by creating a hectic work schedule that took up most of my time—focused almost entirely upon caring for my two little boys. I didn’t leave a lot of time for fun, any kind of a social life, or time for self-reflection and spiritual enrichment.
However, one day I “woke up” and decided that I had to start living life for me. I had to start leaning into what I was starting to see as my calling in life: empowering women to “wake up” in their own lives, to feel more empowered in their own bodies, to be better advocates of their own well-being, and to heal their disconnect with themselves so they can start living a more spiritually aligned and fulfilling life.
Now while I had this realization, it’s also taken me awhile to step into this new role and get where I am today…ready to embrace more of this work. I had been doing this type of coaching work with various personal training clients throughout the years—and I didn’t even realize it! I wasn’t sure how to label this type of coaching or what to call it. I was scared that people would think I was off my rocker for venturing into a type of healing and empowerment coaching. I immediately brushed it aside as I would start replaying many of the old stories in my mind as to how my “no-nonsense” and “strictly business” father would perceive this type of coaching.
So I pressed on over these last few years trying to fulfill my role as a healer a and realize empowerment coaching through other types of coaching like prenatal and postnatal fitness, women’s fitness, core and pelvic floor health, and perimenopausal and menopausal fitness; working with women in these realms would yield more “tangible” and “down to earth” results for my clients and for me.
I wouldn’t trade all of the knowledge and experience I have gained over the years in helping these women, but the nudging from God to shift my coaching has grown stronger, and I can’t deny it any longer. I would be doing myself and many other women a disservice in avoiding this call to help women heal from whatever it is that is holding them back physically, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally—so that they can finally have a healthy relationship with their mind, body, and soul and realize their unlimited potential in this life!
So while I will continue to write about various topics related to women’s fitness, prenatal and postnatal fitness, and core and pelvic floor health, I don’t plan on sticking to any one niche or segment.
I believe in healing the whole woman (mind, body, and soul). I believe in creating content and coaching services that will help her feel empowered on all levels. I’m excited for what the future holds as I dive deeper into my calling as a healer and empowerment coach. I look forward to sharing more about my experiences with you, and I hope that I inspire you along the way to also realize your own potential and live and be your best self in this world!