I realize that I may be going against the norm by saying this (however, I think a lot of moms may feel the same way, but are just afraid to say it for fear of the “mommy guilt”), but here goes…
Periodically, I see social media posts or ads marketing “mommy and me” fitness classes where moms have a chance to work out and bond with their babies simultaneously. I ABSOLUTELY see the value in these types of classes and will offer this format for my clients if that’s what they want to do and need to do Also, I always encourage my clients to bring their little ones along for their sessions with me because I know what it’s like to be a new mom and juggle the demands of motherhood while trying to take some time to care for yourself.
However…these kinds of classes have never really worked for me. No, it’s NOT because I don’t love my children any less or don’t want to bond with them. In fact, it’s just the opposite. It’s more so because my workouts have always been MY time to check out and do something for myself, so that I can be a better mother to my children. I worried about how I was going to be able to still do this when I started having children, but I have ALWAYS found a way to make it work. I’ve had many a workouts with a little peanut gallery watching me while I work out, and even my older two have joined in from time to time. Nevertheless, I have always treated this time as ME time and probably will always do sol. I am caring for these little beings the other 23 hours of the day, so I just want a little bit of breathing room and space to be me and be “cling free” for awhile!
So why do I say all this? For all you other mamas that may feel the same way as I do, but feel guilty for feeling this way. It’s perfectly okay, and healthy in fact, to take AND make time and space for your own self-care. Don’t ever let yourself feel guilty about doing so because being a mother is a very demanding role, and we all need time on a daily basis to “disconnect”.